Does God Tell You Who to Marry?
A woman wrote to me saying that God told her she was going to marry her last boyfriend. But when they broke up, he was engaged to another woman within the month. Now she feels confused. She’s wondering: Did God tell me who I was going to marry?
When it comes to marriage, hearing God is tricky because it involves another person’s will. We should never use hearing God to impose our will upon another person. If you heard God about an area of your life that intersects with another person’s will – such as marriage, getting a job, applying for school – then I encourage you to keep the matter to yourself. Don’t tell the other person.
In time, situations will make it clear whether you indeed heard from God. When God speaks, his promises come to pass. As you learn to hear God, it’s normal to think that you heard God only to learn that you were mistaken. Once its clear that you made a mistake – and his being engaged to another woman is a pretty good sign – then, it’s time to move on. Holding on to a false hope will only haunt you, and keep you from any potential matches that may be in store.
Growing in faith requires that we learn to hear God’s voice. And yet, it’s normal for our personal desire to cloud our ability to clearly hear God. I encourage you to continually push your will out of the way, and begin to accept what God has for your life.